You're Such a Tool -- No Ma'am - Think of a man as a stick in a woman's hand - a tool which she uses for
her own purposes. The woman with the biggest stick will fare better in
society than women with smaller sticks - or especially women with no
sticks at all. This is a further reason for women to give men fitness tests - to test how strong of a stick he is. If she finds him sufficiently strong, she will begin to conform herself around him,
creating the illusion that she is his ideal mate so that he will begin
to fall in love with her and thus become useful to her as a "tool."
You Mean Nothing to a Woman Until You Have Sex -- Bonecrker - A woman decides within seconds if she wants a man or not, and then immediately tests him to see if he is important enough and in demand enough to not have to chase her. Almost anything he does to pursue her, please her, or try to get close to her makes his value drop.
Shit Tests vs. Psychotic Raving Lunatic Tests -- Bonecrker - All women test, that’s a fact of life. They want to know the steel
content of your balls. To pass the test, your response needs to be some
version of, I’m going to do whatever I choose to do, whether you like it
or not, and for no better reason than I want to…..and if you don’t like
it, you can just leave because, quite frankly, there are other women
waiting for me to get rid of you so they can have a turn.
The Threat -- Rational Male - Women’s shit testing is a psychologically evolved, hard-wired survival mechanism. Women will shit test men as autonomously and subconsciously as a men will stare at a woman’s big boobs.
They cannot help it, and often enough, just like men staring at a nice
rack or a great ass, even when they’re aware of doing it they’ll still
do it. Men want to verify sexual availability to the same degree women
want to verify a masculine dominance / confidence.
In the Battle of the Sexes, If She Wins, She Loses -- Philalethes - The encounter of the sexes is not, in Mao’s words, “a dinner party.”
It’s serious business, the origin of birth and death, a dance of
creation/destruction between the two most dangerous predators on the
planet. “How do porcupines mate? Very carefully.” It’s like sparring
partners in a martial art: we keep each other strong, healthy, alert, we
teach each other and check each other’s excesses. In order for it to
work, we need each other whole.
"[Regarding elephant seal mating behavior, where females will
copulate with lesser males, then 'bawl out' so dominant males will come
to chase the lesser male away and establish his dominance by mating
with her afterwards] Recently these "protests" have been studied
intensively by Cathleen Cox and Burney J. Le Boeuf. They found that
males mounting estrous females are more than twice as likely to be
driven away by other males when the female protests than when she
remains silent. Thus the picture that emerges is that the females have a
substantial degree of control over the fertilization process, and that
they use this control, at least in part, to play males off against each
Why do they do this, if they do? What could be the point? Perhaps the
single observation that can be made about the range of ways one male is
chosen out of the many that are called is that physical exertion is
almost always involved, or demanded. It might be that the female is
interposing a test that prevents her mating with gross misfits, from
pairing her genes with genes that are defective.
The case that fits this suggestion best is male competition among
those creatures in which the males have only one gene set instead of the
usual two. A male of such a species has only one source of genetic
information. If one of his genes is defective he must rely on it, use
it, and express it, regardless. Mating among the social insects - a
prime example of these one-gene-set males - is just as strenuous as
among the larger-bodied species we have been reviewing. In some cases a
queen flies to great heights so that only the fastest, highest-flying
males can reach her; in others she might crawl along the ground,
requiring the males to search for her over periods of as long as several
weeks."" -- Fred Hapgood, Why Males Exist; An Inquiry Into The Evolution Of Sex, William Morrow and Company, Inc. New York, 1979, pp. 117-118