It wouldn't even have to be a fancy place that you've got. Check out this tiny pad:
It would easily do the trick for me as a get-away/hang-out where I could go to for a while, and as an address separate from a girlfriend to eliminate common-law status, and also as an emergency "landing pad" if ever needed. Think about how much money men lose by being forced into pseudo-marriages through common-law BS. Suddenly owning a little shack somewhere seems like an interesting investment, if it protects your greater assets from the family court system.
Anyway, here is the comment for you to read:
By Ray Wolfson
I have been in a few long term relationships... it depends on her age and yours and if you and her want kids.
At the end of the day a long term relationship without kids is almost not worth having (plus she'll probably fill your house with horrid lapdogs and cats once she hits menopause) My father is still bed hopping at 70+ and he says it gets easier because the older gals are much more mellow and accepting, but he does get into relationships that last. It is nice to have a special someone tied down, It's just not nice to be tied up !!!
So you really have to know what you want. If you want to start a family with the girl and go for real long term, then it's a simple equation, one that I have totally screwed up over the last few years, so take it from someone who has learned by mistakes big time.....
Firstly women like to nest, so provide her with that nest. The male turkeys build huge nests and then invite the females in. This has worked great for me with one huge BUT....once the female is in your nest - long term - it's not your nest any more it's HER NEST!
Therefore to maintain independence, status, protect your assets and so forth, (and be able to run a little game on the side) you need to set her up in your nest... make it her nest, but keep somewhere else for yourself (easy if you are self employed like me) then you can come and go as you please with impunity.
If things get tense you disappear for a couple of weeks.....
You have to firewall the asset and the 'family' nest as something you can literally walk away from same day.
This has been my mistake. I love chilling at home and I work from home and I'm always around, so basically way too available I think this is the mistake a lot of men make in LTRs (Long-term Relationships). It's not your home it's HERS. You can set her up in it and then come and go and basically maintain your status like a lover. The best LTR I had was with a girl who had her own place, and that place became like my pad in a sense, but I was always visiting her. She loved it when i arrived, greeted my like the finest 10 at the local brothel. It was fantastic. She wanted her man back in her nest. You see the difference!
Unless you do that, when things get difficult, your comfort, your base, your emotional center, your orientation etc. is all based around your 'home' where you live with her. She starts making that tense and awkward and your whole life falls apart and you feel homeless. You end up like that cliche guy getting a motel room for the night to get some peace. This is stressful disorientating, expensive, unproductive and shitty.
So you create a home with her, set her up long term, prenup, get married... GO FOR IT! But keep your distance and keep her AND your home with her at arm's length. Be able to write it off - then you will never have to!
Women in an LTR get under your skin. They discuss your life and work and business and everything with you. It all seems so harmless and warm, soft, friendly etc... HOWEVER.... when you need some space (or want to bang a hottie on the weekend) the LTR girl is all over you like a rash. She knows your work schedule, your family, your friends. You're like a 14 year old, giving her excuses just to go out for a Saturday night, even if it's just for a beer with some mates from work and nothing is going to happen. Shit i've had a girl in an LTR get jealous because i went for a jog in the forest for an hour on a Tuesday morning.
If you watch the TV show Mad Men, you see how all these guys in the 60s had important careers and stay home wives cooking them meals when they got home etc.etc. and one of the dynamics I loved about that old school LTR is the man's world remains this impressive mystery to the woman.
The same girl I had an LTR with i mentioned above, where we basically lived out of her place but I'd come and go... on our first date I told her I was an arms dealer, smuggling weapons to Africa. Of course she knew this was a joke, but with me coming and going on business, and away for a week here and a week there, it remained very exciting to her.
The mystery of my world, even if I was hell stressed with work... I was doing IT and Telecom setups and travelling alot... it kept her panties wet and I always maintained this aloof mystery. I never discussed my work with her. "DONT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT!" My world was a mystery and I came and went as I pleased. She hated it in a way and always nagged me to move in with her properly and finally stonewalled me to break up or move in fully... I called her bluff and split. I could see what was going to happen was I'd move in and she'd slowly get bored of having me around 24/7. The solution was not to break up with her, but carry on the dynamic of keeping her in orbit around me and my world, rather than allowing myself to be dragged into orbiting her rather shrink wrapped world. We could have rented a bigger apartment and put my name on the lease, and then I could have carried on exactly as before, for 10-20 years with kids and the lot. It was that easy... and she would have loved it and hated it.
You see women are never happy because what they love, they also hate. They hate being boned and controlled by this big male... but they also love it. You can never make that happy. You can only keep it just in the sweet spot where you want it to be. THINK ABOUT IT!
Even the most dull unimaginative middle management woman can make an excellent wife, home maker, momma, partner, LTR, work a job, bring in some cash etc. etc... provided you only spend that perfect amount of time with her, so she is amping for more, never quite gets enough of you..... and you don't get bored of her.
I think alot of these LTRs die because the man gets bored to tears. The woman senses his lack of interest and starts pushing him away. Solution? Keep your distance. Analyze how many hours per week can i really spend with this person... halve that number and stick to the program...
It's well known that Christmas and holidays are the time when most family breakups occur. WHY? Because too much time together = stifling, boring, tedious and GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE!
The earth orbits the sun at the correct distance, the electron orbits the proton at the correct distance. Make her your electron.. Be the proton. Be her sun at the centre of her universe. Don't be her moon manically in orbit around her.
This of course is exactly what happens to the poor schelp like me. I built a lovely home, with all my gadgets, office and so forth, work only a few hours a day, love my place, but she gets fed up with me lurking about all the time, and starts pushing me out. Now I feel like I'm in orbit around my home base whereas if i'd had my home base - my centre of gravity - somewhere else and her installed in "our home," she'd still be in orbit around me.
Ain't gravity a bitch !
When the electron gets too close to the proton it merges and creates a neutron. Oops! Neuter boy and frigid girl. No sex for them tonight. Don't let her get too close to destroy it. The problem with all this equality and so forth is we want to discuss and debate and negotiate everything, so the electron (the female) gets too close.