The speech that men will never hear.
"This is the speech that men will never hear. That men are owed. That
men are deserved. Tell me if this strikes a chord with you at all. It
goes a little something like this.
Dear men, we are incredibly sorry. As a culture, as a society, as woman,
as filmmakers, as other men we are incredibly sorry. We have been
putting you down for years. We have been insulting you for years. We
have been denigrating you for years. We have been caustic. We have been
destructive. We have broken you down because we want things from you
that are unjust.
In order to get you to bend over backwards for us we had to break your
spine. We have relentlessly have pounded you with insults and
stereotypes with destructive messages with undermining cliché's and we
have pretended that we don't need you. That you are something we put up
with like a farty, stinky, ancient dog kept around for mere sentimental
reasons. We have exploited you, used you, and thrown you in jail for
impossible standards in child support and alimony.
We have regularly used the courts and abused you while calling only you
the abuser. We have done all that we can to put you down and turn you
to the service of our own narcissistic needs.
We are incredibly sorry. We made a huge mistake. The evidence is in that
you are essential to the family to the health happiness of children and
the health, happiness, and safety of woman. Society lives or dies by
your honor. We have been teaching you for decades that you have no
honor. That you are pigs. That you are selfish, lazy, greedy, immature,
sexually obsessed, and untrustworthy.
We have of course pretended that the money
you bring into the relationship; is immaterial. The only thing that
matters is our dishes not your work and of course the government will
provide us with all the things that you don't, you have become
fundamentally much less necessary from a resource standpoint. From a
We can survive as a family because of the power of the state without
you, the father. The children suffer enormously, sometime irrevocably.
The girls suffer because the get pampas and arrogant. They think that
they can do it all themselves and the boys suffer because they get
locked into a state of perpetual adolescence were they have tragically
listened to the lies told to them about manhood and femininity. Were
they say well, I guess I don't want to be a burden. I'm clearly not
necessary to a family in fact I would just be another problem, another
straw on the back of my wife's camel-load of endless chores. I'm
obviously dangerous, bullying, selfish, lazy, greedy, and grabby so I will not burden a woman.
The new nobility for men is simply not to get involved in any of this
stuff anymore because, when you are told you are a problem, a burden,
when your told you're a foolish farty family pet that's constantly
knocking over all the wonderful beautiful feminine china in the known
universe then what you do is say I will absent myself from this
situation because I don't want to be an additional burden.
As a result for men it is consider honorable at a very deep level to not
involve themselves in family life. To not get married. To not be an
additional burden and to not cause additional problems for the long
suffering woman who obviously do a great job raising children without
men. In fact seem very eager to have men out of their lives because this
portrayal of men as selfish scratchy slobs. The new heroism, the new
nobility, the new honor for men is to not impose their needy, empty,
grabby and destructive selves on the noble woman.
This is what male nobility has been tortured into. It's changed from
recognition that woman and children need men desperately to have a
healthy functioning happy family life. For children to grow up wise,
mature, and responsible. It is now become well; my nobility is to not
get married. My contribution to society is to avoid marriage and
fatherhood. Woman have got it and I'm told that I'm just constantly a
burden. I'm told that I'm a negative so; I am going to avoid that.
The apology will never come. Nobody will say to you we're so sorry. We
put you down. We humiliate you. We told you that you were unnecessary.
That you were a burden and the fact is that we were completely wrong. We
as a culture have destroyed the family and it's only getting worse.
Men, we need you, Men, husbands, providers, we need you. We thought we
could do it with the state and that means the children are born heavily in debt to
fatherless homes. To shitty schools. To a life of underachievement and
increased criminality, of distractedness, of very little ability to
forward plan and to defer gratification. All the things it requires to
be good husbands in the long run.
We are so sorry. We were completely wrong, Men, please come back."