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Otto Weininger, Sex and Character, Male and Female Psychology -- It is very shortsighted of any one to consider the nurse as a proof of the
sympathy of women, because it really implies the opposite. For a man could
never stand the sight of the sufferings of the sick; he would suffer so
intensely that he would be completely upset and incapable of lengthy attendance
on them. Any one who has watched nursing sisters is astonished at their
equanimity and "sweetness" even in the presence of most terrible death throes;
and it is well that it is so, for man, who cannot stand suffering and death,
would make a very bad nurse. A man would want to assuage the pain and ward off
death; in a word, he would want to help; where there is nothing to be
done he is better away; it is only then that nursing is justified and that
woman offers herself for it. But it would be quite wrong to regard this
capacity of women in an ethical aspect.
Very Few Women Are Capable of Empathizing With Men -- No Ma'am - There are about as
many women who have the ability to empathize with men as there are
children capable of empathizing with adults.
Empathy -- The Rational Male - Perhaps it’s due to a deeply enrgamatic hard-wiring of the importance of
hypergamy into the feminine’s psychological firmware, but women cannot
accept that any man, and in particular a Man worth considering as a
suitable hypergamic pairing, might ever be incapacitated. The feminine
subconscious refuses to acknowledge even the possibility of this.
Perpetuating the species and ensuring the nurturing her offspring maybe
part of her pysche’s hard-code, but ensuring the survival and
provisioning of her mate is not.
Who Is More Empathetic; Men or Women? -- Angry Harry - One of the few sources of pleasure for me in recent years when it comes
to social and gender issues has been the gradual dethroning and utter
humiliation of the politically-corrected left-wing nincompoops working in
the sciences and social 'sciences' who have for so long managed to cheat
the whole of humanity with their lies and their stupidity over the issue
of whether or not certain human characteristics are inherited and, if so,
to what extent.
Florence Nightingale - “…. I have read half your book thro’, and am immensely charmed by it.
But some things I disagree with and more I do not understand. This does
not apply to the characters, but your conclusions, e.g. you say “women
are more sympathetic than men”.
Now if I were to write a book out of my experience, I should
begin Women have no sympathy. Yours is the tradition. Mine is the
conviction of experience.
Now look at my experience of men. A statesman, past middle age,
absorbed in politics for a quarter of a century, out of sympathy with
me, remodels his whole life and policy – learns a science the driest,
the most technical, the most difficult, that of administration, as far
as it concerns the lives of men – not, as I learnt it, in the field from
stirring experience, but by writing dry regulations in a London room by
my sofa with me. This is what I call real sympathy.
Another (Alexander, whom I made Director-General) does very
nearly the same thing. He is dead too. Clough, a poet born if ever there
was one, takes to nursing administration in the same way, for me.
I only mention three whose whole lives were remodeled by sympathy for me. But I could mention very many others…
I have never found one woman who altered her life by one iota for me or my opinions.
Now just look at the degree in which women have sympathy – as far
as my experience is concerned. And my experience of women is almost as
large as Europe. And it is so intimate too. I have lived and slept in
the same bed with English Countesses and Prussian Bauerinnen. No [other
woman] has ever had charge of women of the different creeds that I have
had. No woman has excited “passions” among women more than I have. Yet I
leave no school behind me. My doctrines have taken no hold among
women…and I attribute this to a want of sympathy.
It makes me mad, the Women’s Rights talk about “the want of a
field” for them – when I know that I would gladly give £500 a year for a
Woman Secretary. And two English Lady Superintendents have told me the
same. And we can’t get one … they don’t know the names of the Cabinet
Ministers. They don’t know the offices at the Horse Guards…Now I’m sure I
did not know these things. When I went to the Crimea I did not know a
Colonel from a Corporal. But there are such things as Army Lists and
Almanacs. Yet I never could find a woman who, out of sympathy, would
consult one for my work.
I do believe I am “like a man,” as Parthe says. But how? In having sympathy.
Women crave for being loved, not for loving. They scream out at
you for sympathy all day long, they are incapable of giving any in
return, for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so…They
cannot state a fact accurately to another, nor can that other attend to
it accurately enough for it to become information. Now is not all this
the result of want of sympathy?
I am sick with indignation at what wives and mothers will do of
the most egregious selfishness. And people call it all maternal or
conjugal affection, and think it pretty to say so. No, no, let each
person tell the truth from his own experience.”
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